i am terrified

i fear for my mother's health. the more i read, the more i think there is a good chance she could have diabetes. if this is true, i will be very upset/sad but i know that feeling that way will not accomplish anything. i'm going to keep insisting that she go to the doctor's office. this can be frustrating as well seeing that she has gone in the past and they haven't really helped. i think this has to do with her insurance, it's always the fucking insurance. if i was younger again i'd make my parents tell me, "we want you to succeed because living poor in America will kill you. You need money for the basics, like healthcare. you need a good insurance policy for any medical professional to take you seriously. they need their money."
anywho, i'm going to keep researchin diabetes, but i need my mom to go see the doctor. tests need to be taken. the thing that bothers her the most is when her legs fall alseep/feel numb...and her lower back. the leg numbness could be related to a diabetic neuropathy...or something like that. i just want to know so that we can see what we need to do. NEED to do. This is the thing, I don't want my mom to believe that she can't do anything to change her situation. We need a plan and i need to make sure she follows through. I don't want my mom to die just because she doesn't believe in herself.
this is the biggest obstacle in our relationship. i want a strong mother figure. i need someone to take control. but when problems come up, she seems helpless...almost like she's giving in. it's so frustrating. we'll see what happens.